"When you find yourself stressed, ask yourself one question: Will this matter iN 5 years from now? If yes, then do something about the situation. If no, then let it go."
I'm back, you guys! I had an excellent Labor Day Weekend and I hope that you did too. My vacation was absolutely amazing and I'm so excited to fill you in on all of the details. My original plan was for this post to be focused on one of the cities I visited, but I've had the word "perspective" on my heart, so I figured I would roll with it.
As much as I love traveling, I suffer from the most terrible PVD (post-vacay depression). I know, super dramatic, but I'm sure that many of you can relate. For me, it has a lot to do with getting back to the same routine (and this is coming from someone who thrives in routine and sort-of-kind-of likes it). Seeing new places, meeting new people, and experiencing new cultures get my mental wheels churning.
I had a lot of time to think about...well, everything. You know, the usual existential stuff. "Am I happy with the progress I've made this year"?, "Why did this situation or the next bother me so much"?, "What do I see for myself as the year comes to a close"? "Why do carbs taste so good, but ruin your life"? 😫
While I am a proponent of forward thinking, goal setting, and having a personal vision for your life, I'm also an overthinking-overanalyzing terror (to myself that is). It's insanely unhealthy, not to mention exhausting. Who wants that?!
As I sifted through my mental clutter, chilling on the beach, cocktail in hand, I realized that about 2% of the things I was "stressed" about actually mattered. 2% would make a difference in the next week, month, or even year. The rest was actual nothing. Imagine that...my poor brain and heart. I certainly wouldn't be the first person to have this problem and I hope that this is sounding familiar to some of you. Ultimately, what I'm trying to tell you is that almost everything (a whopping 98%) that you think matters really doesn't (and that we're all crazy). Hopefully you're not like me and you already live with this sentiment in heart and mind, but if not, there is hope. We can change and we can stop caring about 98% of things. Life is so much easier that way.
Does this mean that I'm going to just wing it and stop paying my rent? --- I'm tempted. Kidding!
But seriously, what it does mean, at least for me, is that I've got to find a better way to process these thoughts before they turn into annoying looping streams that I'm going to throw out anyway - way past their expiration date.
This is a short post, but only because I decided once and for all that I was just going to stop being weird, stop taking things so seriously, and just chill out. Simple. Will I relapse? Probably. Nonetheless, I will also remind myself how much better of a person I can be when my mind is clear, my heart is open, and I'm accepting of the fact that life throws you all types of things, some spectacular and some not so great. All will be well. Always.
By definition, perspective is a particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.
My hope for myself and for you is that we can take a step back and look at things from a different angle, new point of view. We have that power. Let's save our brains the energy and our hearts the stress.
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